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    WILLIAM AND RITA

    PREPARING MEN FOR EMPOWERED WOMEN William and Rita have been married for three years. William has been comfortable with being the breadwinner while Rita stays home and does the chores. Rita has always wanted to further her studies and join the workforce. After the birth and the weaning of their second baby boy, she asked for William’s permission to return to school. He blatantly refused noting that she has no need for more education. He was able to provide everything they needed as a family since he was the man – the head of the house. As the days went by, William started to become irritated and restless. He would…

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    THE WIFE MATERIAL TEST

    Daniella’s lower lip twitched as they pulled up at Moses’ family house – a beautiful maroon bungalow. After two years of dating, Moses was finally ready to introduce her to his mother before taking their relationship a step further. She was scared and nervous at the same time.  “Would she like me?” she asked Moses for the umpteenth time.  “Of course,” Moses said, turning off the ignition and looking at her.  She made a face at him and rolled her eyes.  “I’m serious. Anyone would love you babe,” he said, leaning in and kissing her cheek.  She forced a smile as she pushed open the car door. She wasn’t fully…

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    STOP THE CRUCIFIXION; SOME SKILLS ARE NOT INNATE

    Society puts so many ridiculous expectations on women and sometimes experiencing it or thinking about it drives me crazy. One of the those I really hate is how you, as a woman, is expected to know how to handle a baby perfectly even when you have never had one around you all your life. Nobody takes into account your circumstances. All they see is a failure. A woman who is not worthy to be ‘wifed’. My life experience paints a better picture of this situation: I have a twin brother and we have no younger one so I have never known what it’s like to be actively involved in looking…

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    WOMEN WITH ONLY DAUGHTERS ARE NOT LESS; CHILD-BEARING NOT A METRIC FOR DETERMINING WOMANHOOD

    “Congratulations Mr Jeremiah. It’s a girl.”   Jeremiah hissed at his wife turned, walked out of the hospital and drove off leaving mother and his fifth daughter to sort themselves out. Tears ran down Angela’s face. Why was their having girls her fault? Why couldn’t he just accept that children were not hers to give but nature?   ****   Jeremiah and Angela had been married for seven years. After their fourth daughter, Jeremiah had started withdrawing and becoming distant. When she asked him what was wrong, he didn’t say anything to her. Sometimes, he would get upset at her question and leave the house again.   He wasn’t much…

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    Female Genital Mutilation

    Female genital mutilation (FGM) according to World Health Organization (WHO) comprises all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia, or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. Furthermore according to this health organization, this procedure has no health benefits for girls and women. From statistics, this act is prevalent in 29 countries in Africa including Nigeria and Middle East. Why would a fellow human be made to suffer all in the name of culture, why will someone be made to go through excruciating pain all because culture has to be practiced? Everything all in the name of culture, why must women be…

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    La Fille (The Girl)

    Breast ironing, female genital mutilation, sexual violence, arranged marriage among others are what a girl child goes through in some communities. Yes I vow to the blueness of my ink to stop madam cash from trading our daughters for jewelleries our mothers of tomorrow Yes I vow to the scars on my heart to tarnish senator kasalis integrity our 13 year old mother-made-girls concubines at his villa Yes I vow to humanity’s groans to punish mama alero for pounding aleros breast brutality in the name of protection Yes I vow to the terror in my voice to format education schemes for putting our ladies at the back row our intelligent…

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    Girl Child Marriage

    The palm wine tappers daughter Growing small tangerines attracted you Abandoning the thighs of a ready-to-be mother You tore into soul of an adolescent You bought a bride with a price And inserted your knife of greed into her emotions Sucking the milky drops from her eyes Is this marriage of slave trade? A penny for a night So you promised her father Free water supply and light So you promised her mother Go ask the gods What killed senator lagbaja the other night It was one word one knife Deadly blows that stole cruelty from his sight Girl’s marriage is a taboo I will fight till the last drop…

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    Girls Smash Stereotypes

    My bangles cast with mud Vegetables adorn my head Forever stuck in this hell-hole Ever heated kitchen -stead  My gender is my sentence My home, my prison Condemned to serve the man I’m forced to be content with second place Though, for enlightenment, I’ve fought Wielded my flag against my mistreatment The system fights right back, always to put me in my place In class, in the office, my good work disdained Down-trodden by tradition,all the more by men Cursed to be a glorified house-help All my abilities lie potential within me My soul bleeds, wishing release from inertia If only to let loose the fountains of innovation, foresight, oh,…

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    Excism

    Excism To realise self is to command To command self is to live. What does a fruit, unripe, detached from its source sing? Slimy lamentations of unattainment. Devouring birds may not get a look to see her, ripen and stomach to their fill her delicacy. I mean, desire for debauchery averted. Good riddance, yes? There is a sorrow that nature speaks of when form and expression is bound. Choice is the insignia of higher life. “Come to knowledge” the elders counsel. Futility i say when the tentacles of the mind, cut off. Good riddance, no? She wriggles in pain weeks long, trudging along the wilderness of confusion, conflation of existential…