• Lifestyle

    ”FOOT YOUR BILL MY FOOT”

    Growing up in Nigeria, I have heard many men I know often complain about how society is hard on them as regards being responsible and having enough money to cater for themselves and others also. They also complain about how many women feel entitled to their wealth and money even when they barely know them. For instance, a guy asks for a girl’s number and the girl already sees him as potential lunches, dinners, credit alerts and airtime even when she’s clearly seeing someone. Sometimes, even just casual friends expect their male friends to buy gifts, help them pay for stuff and so on as though they’re entitled to it. …

  • Education

    YOUR BODY, YOUR RULES: TOWARDS A RECLAMATION OF FEMALE BODILY INTEGRITY – DEBORAH ADEOJO

    Some months ago, I completed a 5-day vlog series (for my Whatsapp status audience) underscoring women’s journey to reclaiming bodily integrity; a conversation that is becoming increasingly crucial in feminine and feminist circles. Two days before I started, I had commented on my experience reading The Vagina Monologue and how that narrative disrupts the normative thought processes and attitudes that underpin conversations about the woman’s body. Shortly after my comment, a friend had sent me a message on how only after decades of being sexually abused (a term I think grossly underrepresents the grievousness of the breach of bodily autonomy and integrity women are subjected to and the multiple burdens imposed on them as survivors) has she found…

  • Culture

    WILLIAM AND RITA

    PREPARING MEN FOR EMPOWERED WOMEN William and Rita have been married for three years. William has been comfortable with being the breadwinner while Rita stays home and does the chores. Rita has always wanted to further her studies and join the workforce. After the birth and the weaning of their second baby boy, she asked for William’s permission to return to school. He blatantly refused noting that she has no need for more education. He was able to provide everything they needed as a family since he was the man – the head of the house. As the days went by, William started to become irritated and restless. He would…

  • Education

    STEM (SCIENCE, TECHNOLOGY, ENGINEERING AND MATHEMATICS) IS NOT MEANT FOR GIRLS.

    “Please sir, I would like to create a STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics) awareness program for girls. It is an initiative to introduce girls from the junior secondary school to the wonders and possibilities of science, math, technology and engineering …,” the principal read aloud, his eyes widening. Then he glanced up from his letter, pulled off his thin glasses, placed it on the table as he stared at the younger man standing in front of him.    “That is my problem with you corpers. You come here thinking you can turn everyone’s head with white people’s nonsense then you go home disappointed when nothing really changed. This is…

  • Culture

    STOP THE CRUCIFIXION; SOME SKILLS ARE NOT INNATE

    Society puts so many ridiculous expectations on women and sometimes experiencing it or thinking about it drives me crazy. One of the those I really hate is how you, as a woman, is expected to know how to handle a baby perfectly even when you have never had one around you all your life. Nobody takes into account your circumstances. All they see is a failure. A woman who is not worthy to be ‘wifed’. My life experience paints a better picture of this situation: I have a twin brother and we have no younger one so I have never known what it’s like to be actively involved in looking…

  • Culture

    WOMEN WITH ONLY DAUGHTERS ARE NOT LESS; CHILD-BEARING NOT A METRIC FOR DETERMINING WOMANHOOD

    “Congratulations Mr Jeremiah. It’s a girl.”   Jeremiah hissed at his wife turned, walked out of the hospital and drove off leaving mother and his fifth daughter to sort themselves out. Tears ran down Angela’s face. Why was their having girls her fault? Why couldn’t he just accept that children were not hers to give but nature?   ****   Jeremiah and Angela had been married for seven years. After their fourth daughter, Jeremiah had started withdrawing and becoming distant. When she asked him what was wrong, he didn’t say anything to her. Sometimes, he would get upset at her question and leave the house again.   He wasn’t much…

  • Sports

    France 2019 FIFA Women’s World Cup: A marker for greater things!

    The curtains have been drawn on this year’s edition of the FIFA Women’s World Cup, and the event in France saw numerous gains achieved in Women’s football on a global level. In the spirit of advocacy, I launched the Slay-Ballers campaign to bring more awareness to women playing soccer particularly in the face of an ever-widening gender gap when compared to the men’s game. France 2019 saw a clear upgrade in the hitherto low standard of women’s football. The quality of soccer on display by the ladies this summer in France has been remarkably high, so much that many people have forgotten that two big regional men’s events (the AFCON…

  • Sports

    THE SLAYBALLERS 2019 – FIFA WOMEN’S WORLD CUP – ENGLAND VS USA

    The FIFA 2019 Women’s World Cup is gradually coming to an end and we are presently at the semi-final stage where we have a couple of mouthwatering fixtures to enjoy. England take on the only non-European team left in the competition and defending champions USA while Sweden take on European champions Netherlands in an all European Showdown. The Lionesses will be looking to go one stage better than they did in Canada as they take on tournament favorites USA while the USWNT will be looking to make a return to the final as they look to successfully defend their title when they take to the field in Lyon. Having knocked…

  • Sports

    THE SLAY BALLERS 2019 – FIFA WOMEN’S WORLD CUP 2019 – ITALY VS NETHERLANDS

    Italy vs. Netherlands Today is the last match day of the 2019 FIFA Women’s World Cup and there are two interesting matches billed for today in two all-European showdowns. First, Italy take on European champions Netherland and thereafter, tournament favorites, Germany take on Sweden. Our feature match is Italy vs. Netherlands where both teams will be seeking their first semi-final appearance of the FIFA Women’s World Cup. Italy’s impressive campaign at the 2019 FIFA Women’s World Cup, their first in two decades, continued as they made relatively light work of China in their last 16 clash to ensure a clash with the Netherlands in the quarter-finals after narrowly topping their…

  • Sports

    THE SLAY – BALLERS 2019 -FIFA WOMEN’S WORLD CUP 2019 – NETHERLANDS VS JAPAN

    Spain lost out narrowly to the USWNT earlier today and in another similar clash between an established powerhouse and a fast-rising team, the Netherlands take on Japan. At this exact stage of the 2015 World Cup, Japan beat the Netherlands 2-1 and went on to reach their second consecutive final. The Dutch had qualified for that knockout round as one of the four best third-placed teams; they set up this 2019 re-match – a clear evidence of their improvement– by topping their group through an emphatic win. Former world champions Japan are building a team for the future, while the reigning European champions just like the Spanish side are looking…