Growing up, I didn’t have many female friends. I didn’t really understand what it meant to have friends with whom you bonded so closely like sisters. For years, I couldn’t relate when girls were so close and called each other best friends. Today, I am grateful that I get to experience that. When I look at how amazing and strong the female friendship bond is, I wonder why it took so long for me to have this. My female friends have redefined friendship for me in so many ways. First, they have been so sacrificial and loving. They have gone out of their way to make things easier for me.…
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Patriarchy is a System and not an anti-male notion!
One of the things I am most emphatic about in my advocacy is the fact that opposing the system of patriarchy is not the same as hating men. I always reiterate that saying that the patriarchal system should be eradicated is not an attack on men or the cancellation of men in our society. Opposing the patriarchy doesn’t mean hatred for men. What I am saying is that the system that exalts men and debases women is unfair and should be done away with. Unfortunately, this is not what some men hear when they hear the word patriarchy. The word patriarchy makes them defensive because they think you’re trying to…
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Caregiving in the Workplace
Across many cultures, caregiving is considered to be a feminine or motherly role. Women are usually seen as people who are more empathetic and caring. So, they are expected to care for the children, be supportive of their husbands, show support for other members of the family, plan meals, organize the home, be in charge of weddings, birthdays, and other events especially the hospitality aspect and so on. Sadly, many people have taken this expectation to the workplace. There, the caregiving role is left for the woman too. Because she’s female, she’s generally expected to remember her coworkers’ birthdays, plan company trips, show support to other members of staff, take…
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50 Random Facts About Me
It is not my birthday, or any special event today. Yeah, if you ask me why I am putting this up then, I probably have no particular reason to share with you— it could be to intimate you if you are looking forward to being my friend. Asides that genuine reason, perhaps, a few readings here and there (and a bit of idleness) may have spurred me into putting these together. So, here goes some personal pieces of information about me. Yay! 1. My name is Roseline Adebimpe Adewuyi. 2. I was born in Jos, the capital city of Plateau State, Nigeria and I have a twin brother. 3. Very…
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Acne Awareness Month : Dealing with Acne : My Thoughts, My Experiences and My Battles
To begin with, Acne is an insensitive maniac that will not just affect the tone of your skin, but also encroach your confidence, demean your self-esteem and compound your emotional stress, sometimes exacerbate your psychological imbalance. You need to understand that I am not here to share tips with you on how to cure your skin of acne. I am yet to figure it out. And, as much as seeing those unwanted sprouts on your skin may be irritating and frustrating, you, like I am trying to do constantly, have to figure a way to accept that they are a part of you, and when they break out, you may…
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Happy Father’s Day 2021
I worked in Algeria for 18 months and I would say from my lens, I love how fatherhood is practiced. A male friend of mine who shares a similar perspective wrote an article on this. It is indeed a great read. In a modern society where literally everything is fast-paced and success is usually measured by how much wealth or material possession we have, it is easy to neglect our role and duty towards the family with the wrong impression that money can compensate for everything. Thereby turning us, especially fathers, into money chasing robots too exhausted to tolerate even the laughter of a child when we get back home.…
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Amazons 4 – Oluwaseunnla Adelusi
Until recently, many people didn’t see STEM as a field that women should venture into. Many women who loved science, mathematics or dared to think about technology were seen as unusual or an outcast. In some extreme cases, they were called witches and burned. As the years went by, people subtly sought ways to discourage their girls from studying science. They felt that women were too fragile to concern themselves with such things. Today, the narrative has changed a great deal and more women are exploring the field of STEM and navigating it with so much passion and excellence. Despite the changing narrative, there are still a good number of…
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World Menstrual Hygiene Day 2021
World Menstrual Hygiene Day is a day set aside to promote good menstrual hygiene and health for women. It focuses on breaking the silence, educating people on what menstruation is, and asking politicians, key decision-makers and well-meaning organizations need to take action about menstrual hygiene. For centuries, there has been a lack of education and so many persisting taboos surrounding menstruation. People feel like menstruation is something shameful, something we should not talk about. I remember one time a girl wanted to talk about menstruation and an older woman shushed her loudly. “Don’t you talk about that in public,” she said. Another one said, “When men are around, they shouldn’t…
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International Day of the Boy Child 2021
I am grateful to men like Victor Ogbara, Joseph Okunmuyide, Benjamin Sarumi, Ojobo Agbo, Ebuka Ede, Dayo Adeyemi, Deji Irawo, and females like Olufunke Oyinlola and Sanni Olayinka Fatimot (and so on) who have picked up the gauntlets and have chosen to help guide young boys into becoming the best version of themselves. They are amazing people who have chosen to advocate for the boy child and they are seeing results.
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Birthday Reflections 2021
And, today is my birthday! This year, I would like to self-reflect on how God’s goodness has been pivotal to the progress I have recorded in my brake-less advocacy journey. My advocacy quest entered a full drive in 2015, and three years later, after participating in MCW, I launched my blog, where I broach all subjects advocacy. My entire adult life has been riddled with gender-equality discussions, of course, but before those two historic mentions, I hadn’t gone full-on gender-equality advocate on the Internet, but I had engaged young individuals on the controversial topic now and then. Then, I was shy, reserved, and, of course, I was worried that people…
