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    ”FOOT YOUR BILL MY FOOT”

    Growing up in Nigeria, I have heard many men I know often complain about how society is hard on them as regards being responsible and having enough money to cater for themselves and others also. They also complain about how many women feel entitled to their wealth and money even when they barely know them. For instance, a guy asks for a girl’s number and the girl already sees him as potential lunches, dinners, credit alerts and airtime even when she’s clearly seeing someone. Sometimes, even just casual friends expect their male friends to buy gifts, help them pay for stuff and so on as though they’re entitled to it. …

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    WHAT SKILLS ARE WORTH MONETIZING?

    Recently, I realized that some people who have been participants of some programs charging people as much as ₦25,000 or sometimes more when they ask them to help edit their application letters. I wonder why. The funniest thing is that their editing those applications doesn’t guarantee the person interested a spot in the program, conference or event. Once, I tried to talk to someone who I suspected was involved in this and the person said it was a need being met so it needed to be paid for. When the person said that, it reminded me of the time when I wanted to make enquiries about a Postgraduate Program. I…

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    WHEN THE NORMAL BECOMES ABNORMAL ALL IN THE NAME OF PATRIARCHY

    One fine Tuesday morning in January, Dennis walked into his class for early morning lectures. Since he was late, he took one of the vacant seats in the last row, just beside a girl in his class. As the lectures commenced, he scribbled fast and paid rapt attention hanging on to every word the lecturers spoke. After classes, his stomach growled and rumbled so loudly that he picked up his bag, sprang up from his seat and started towards the door a little faster than he should have.   Suddenly, all the students started towards the door as well. It was as though someone had rung a bell because they…

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    FEMALES : EARN IT, DON’T EXPECT SUCCESS ON A SILVER PLATTER.

    Tears rolled down Adanna’s cheeks. Who would have thought that they would choose Jude over her? But Jude was a guy. Their organization was well known for their gender inclusive nature. Didn’t it mean that it had to be her over him? Adanna groaned and held her tummy tight. It hurt to think they would kick her to the sidelines like this? After all she’d dreamed and imagined. Adanna was an executive at Hans Enterprises. She and Jude had been employed the same year and worked almost as hard as each other to get to where they were today. The only difference was that while Ada celebrated her little wins,…

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    SHE IS AT THE HELM!!!

    Juliet has been passionate about leadership since she was a child. Her parents raised her to be vocal and to see herself as capable of organizing people and leading them with goals and visions that helped bring change in society. In the earlier years of primary school, their teacher said that whoever scored the highest would be made class monitor. Juliet worked hard and was best that term. When it was time to reward her efforts, instead of making her monitor. She made her assist the boy who had just come after her in grades. She was upset and went to report to the headteacher. But her headteacher said, “Men…

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    MEN ON BOARD

    After second semester examinations, Adeola came home to announce that she had a C in Maths. Temitope, her younger brother, shrugged.   “Why didn’t you do better? You were so good in Maths. You even got an A1 in WAEC!”  He shrieked.   “It’s normal,” Adeola said, “Aunty Callista said as we go higher, it would difficult for us girls to understand very complex things because we are not supposed to do hard subjects… ”   Their father walked into the parlour just in time to hear Adeola’s bit of the conversation and cut her off, “Deola! What did you just say?”   Adeola bit her lip.   Their father…

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    Women shattering glass ceilings, breaking through concrete walls, striding on sticky floors and escaping career labyrinths : No falling off the Glass Cliff. Never.

    Victoria is the only single woman living in Lincoln estate, the most expensive estate in the country. At 23, she drives a G – Wagon and works as a managing director of a very lucrative firm. Rumor has it that although she has two drivers, a laundry man, a housekeeper and two chefs, she has two personal assistants whose jobs are to read to her when she’s having a warm bath and file her nails. But she has none of those. Just a housekeeper, driver and a security man.   Everyday as she drives past, mothers huddle their female children inside because the kids gush at her in awe and…

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    STEREOTYPES AND HOW THEY COLOUR OUR PERCEPTIONS

    Franca sat on the floor, legs entangled like a yoga instructor.  “Why did she have to be the one to do all the work for them while they had hands and were all given the same assignments in school?” she thought, peeling cocoyam and hissing when the heat scalded her soft palms.   “This isn’t right,” She grumbled, looking at the books on the bed and the pile of dirty clothes just peeping at her from under the bed: Baggy jeans, hoodies, tee-shirts – Clothes that were not hers. .   She bit her lip and continued peeling the cocoyam, blowing her hands and trying to do each piece a…

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    Should gender affect our choices in things that have no biological consequences?

    The quality of our life today is a reflection of the choices we have made in the past – good or bad. Although we are free to make choices, we cannot choose the outcomes or consequences of those our actions.   There are, however, things we did not choose like our race, our skin color, our ethnic group or tribe, the family we are born into and our gender. These are the things we are born with or born into and had no hand in becoming. They should not be a basis of bias or discrimination against us. They should also not determine what choices are right or wrong for…

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    Together We Can-The New Feminine Anthem

    TOGETHER WE CAN-THE NEW FEMININE ANTHEM Recently, a hashtag trended in the U.S twitter space that reads #hersuccessisnotmyfailure. It was another feather to the caps of a new movement already generating waves in the U.S.A., the idea of women supporting women. In her latest post on her blog, HerViewFromHome, Heather LeRoss said, ‘I am a woman who champions my friends. I want nothing for them than to be successful, happy, loved, safe, and healthy…’ Interestingly, while speaking at Sworte Talk 9, which held at the Muson Center, Lagos, Toyosi Akerele shared these same views. Something is evident; the successful women have finally awakened to the fact that it is a…