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    Amazons – Precious Gaza

    The month of March is Women’s history month – a month dedicated to celebrating women who have contributed or are currently contributing their quota to gender equality, the betterment of humanity and to the society. Today, I would like to shine my spotlight on Precious Gaza, an International relations graduate, an emotional intelligence coach and, a girl child education advocate. In this piece she bares it all giving us an insight into how advocacy has been for her as a Nigerian woman. She talks about how she started advocacy, and the challenges so far. She also tells us what inspired her to become an emotional intelligence coach and how life…

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    Do not dim your light and sparkle!

    Lillian had worked really hard this past year. Everyone knew this. She was the only one that got a fat bonus check at the end of year ceremony and it was well deserved too. She also won the employee of the year award for her kindness, thoughtful, resourceful nature, expertise and willingness to learn new things. Everyone knew that she was gunning for the big leagues. Ever since she joined the company, she’d always hoped she’ll be VP and sit on the board of directors.  From the first day she became an employee, she had put in her best. She was always punctual. Never missed a deadline or a pitch…

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    Didn’t she deserve better

    Violet blinked back the tears welling in her eyes. Her vision blurred as pain pulsated through her frail body. She felt the world spin. Her head was throbbing a little more than usual today, she observed. Her threshold had gotten better with time but this pain was more than she could bear. She touched her forehead and felt a huge bruise – larger than the ones he used to give her. This was definitely going to scar. He must have bumped her really hard against the wall this time.  From the corridor, heavy footfalls stamping their authoritative presence marched towards her room. As they came closer, she shrank back in…

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    ARE FEMALE BOSSES REALLY WICKED?

    When you are a woman trying to rise through the ranks and live your dreams in the workplace, it can be very challenging especially when you get to become the boss of some people or someone who has to supervise people. This happens more when you are working in a male-dominated work field. People judge you based on your gender not based on your competencies. It is like they’re expecting you to perform below expectations just because you’re female. This sometimes affects the way the ones you are supervising or are in charge of see you and relate to you. This is particularly true if your junior colleagues or subordinates…

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    ”FOOT YOUR BILL MY FOOT”

    Growing up in Nigeria, I have heard many men I know often complain about how society is hard on them as regards being responsible and having enough money to cater for themselves and others also. They also complain about how many women feel entitled to their wealth and money even when they barely know them. For instance, a guy asks for a girl’s number and the girl already sees him as potential lunches, dinners, credit alerts and airtime even when she’s clearly seeing someone. Sometimes, even just casual friends expect their male friends to buy gifts, help them pay for stuff and so on as though they’re entitled to it. …

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    WHAT SKILLS ARE WORTH MONETIZING?

    Recently, I realized that some people who have been participants of some programs charging people as much as ₦25,000 or sometimes more when they ask them to help edit their application letters. I wonder why. The funniest thing is that their editing those applications doesn’t guarantee the person interested a spot in the program, conference or event. Once, I tried to talk to someone who I suspected was involved in this and the person said it was a need being met so it needed to be paid for. When the person said that, it reminded me of the time when I wanted to make enquiries about a Postgraduate Program. I…

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    WHEN THE NORMAL BECOMES ABNORMAL ALL IN THE NAME OF PATRIARCHY

    One fine Tuesday morning in January, Dennis walked into his class for early morning lectures. Since he was late, he took one of the vacant seats in the last row, just beside a girl in his class. As the lectures commenced, he scribbled fast and paid rapt attention hanging on to every word the lecturers spoke. After classes, his stomach growled and rumbled so loudly that he picked up his bag, sprang up from his seat and started towards the door a little faster than he should have.   Suddenly, all the students started towards the door as well. It was as though someone had rung a bell because they…

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    FEMALES : EARN IT, DON’T EXPECT SUCCESS ON A SILVER PLATTER.

    Tears rolled down Adanna’s cheeks. Who would have thought that they would choose Jude over her? But Jude was a guy. Their organization was well known for their gender inclusive nature. Didn’t it mean that it had to be her over him? Adanna groaned and held her tummy tight. It hurt to think they would kick her to the sidelines like this? After all she’d dreamed and imagined. Adanna was an executive at Hans Enterprises. She and Jude had been employed the same year and worked almost as hard as each other to get to where they were today. The only difference was that while Ada celebrated her little wins,…

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    SHE IS AT THE HELM!!!

    Juliet has been passionate about leadership since she was a child. Her parents raised her to be vocal and to see herself as capable of organizing people and leading them with goals and visions that helped bring change in society. In the earlier years of primary school, their teacher said that whoever scored the highest would be made class monitor. Juliet worked hard and was best that term. When it was time to reward her efforts, instead of making her monitor. She made her assist the boy who had just come after her in grades. She was upset and went to report to the headteacher. But her headteacher said, “Men…

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    MEN ON BOARD

    After second semester examinations, Adeola came home to announce that she had a C in Maths. Temitope, her younger brother, shrugged.   “Why didn’t you do better? You were so good in Maths. You even got an A1 in WAEC!”  He shrieked.   “It’s normal,” Adeola said, “Aunty Callista said as we go higher, it would difficult for us girls to understand very complex things because we are not supposed to do hard subjects… ”   Their father walked into the parlour just in time to hear Adeola’s bit of the conversation and cut her off, “Deola! What did you just say?”   Adeola bit her lip.   Their father…