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    STOP THE CRUCIFIXION; SOME SKILLS ARE NOT INNATE

    Society puts so many ridiculous expectations on women and sometimes experiencing it or thinking about it drives me crazy. One of the those I really hate is how you, as a woman, is expected to know how to handle a baby perfectly even when you have never had one around you all your life. Nobody takes into account your circumstances. All they see is a failure. A woman who is not worthy to be ‘wifed’. My life experience paints a better picture of this situation: I have a twin brother and we have no younger one so I have never known what it’s like to be actively involved in looking…

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    WOMEN WITH ONLY DAUGHTERS ARE NOT LESS; CHILD-BEARING NOT A METRIC FOR DETERMINING WOMANHOOD

    “Congratulations Mr Jeremiah. It’s a girl.”   Jeremiah hissed at his wife turned, walked out of the hospital and drove off leaving mother and his fifth daughter to sort themselves out. Tears ran down Angela’s face. Why was their having girls her fault? Why couldn’t he just accept that children were not hers to give but nature?   ****   Jeremiah and Angela had been married for seven years. After their fourth daughter, Jeremiah had started withdrawing and becoming distant. When she asked him what was wrong, he didn’t say anything to her. Sometimes, he would get upset at her question and leave the house again.   He wasn’t much…

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    Just Because Girls Play Ball Too

    Just because Girls Play Ball too. I am that girl that grew up in the midst of 4 males. My mum and I were the only females around.  I like to call our family the ‘House of Blue’ because that was the colour we kept in mind while shopping for clothes, accessories or shoes. Most of the boys were older than me and we shared hobbies. My favourite hobby, among all the things I loved doing like singing and dancing, was playing football.   I can remember running to get the football as my brothers and I, ran to the community field every weekend to play football. I usually woke…